Discovering your own personal style can be tricky, especially in this day and age; we are constantly scrolling through Instagram and whether we consciously know it or now, in our minds we are comparing ourselves to others. Thinking, I should dress more like them, I should be more like this or that. BUT that isn’t healthy. And this year already I have read many posts about women (and men) wanting to find and most-importantly OWN their personal style, and I am one of them. In a sense, I think I already do have a personal style but its on a very broad spectrum and I want to rein that in a little bit – Essentially create a capsule wardrobe (whether that is 10 pieces or 100 pieces). I basically want every piece in my wardrobe to compliment and work with each other and clearly describe who I am as a person.
As Queen B famously said:
Fashion is the most powerful art there is. It’s movement, design and architecture all in one. It shows the world who we are and who we want to be. – Blair Waldorf
And I couldn’t agree more. At the end of the fashion is about expressing yourself the way you want to and this is something you need to remember when finding or creating the basis of your personal style.
So, how do you go about doing this?
Step 1: Look at your current wardrobe. Go through it and get rid of anything you haven’t worn in the past 6 months to a year, anything that makes you feel even slightly uncomfortable, and anything you don’t 100% LOVE.
Step 2: Now, look at what is left and write down the styles, colours and designs that you can see, these will become your structure for the future of your wardrobe. For instance, mine was mainly blush, nudes, blacks and mustard colours; collars on almost every top, blouse or dress! Pearls in a lot of the detailing, high necks, polka dots and neck ties/pussy bows. For specific garments, dresses and skirts are my most worn. So it is clear to me that these are the aspects I need to be looking out for when I’m shopping.
Step 3: Shopping smart. We all know how hard it is when pay day comes in, you head to the shops and you feel like you want to buy anything. But don’t. What you want to do is really think about styles you want to add to your wardrobe. I tend to have a monthly clothing allowance that I set myself from my wage and used to spend this the weekend I got it. But now I really take the time to gather inspiration and discover the things I really want to add to my wardrobe and only purchase something that 1. I ADORE straight away and 2. that I 100% know I will wear. If I have a single doubt in my mind, it goes back on the rack. Last thing when shopping, is I stick to my newly found colour code but am open to new styles as trends come and go.
Step 4: Try it on and keep the tags on. I tend to wait until the next morning to try my new purchases on. I don’t like trying things on in-store as lighting is awful and its hard to see if it will fit in with my wardrobe. Once I have tried everything on, I will add it to my ‘new-in’ clothing rail but keep all the tags on. After a couple of weeks, I’ll look at what’s left on there and anything I haven’t worn, or have realised I don’t really love enough then I will return it. Why? Because If I haven’t worn it in the first few weeks of purchasing it then I clearly don’t love it that much and therefore don’t need it in my wardrobe. Obviously there are sometimes a few exceptions, for example I have an incredible pair of suede boots that I cannot wait to wear but the rain just hasn’t stopped!
Step 5: Confidence. It is amazing what happens when you find that little bit of confidence in your personal style. It’s important to let go of negative thoughts, worrying about what others may think of you. Instead put that energy into something better, like loving yourself. Wear what you love with pride and know that whether someone else likes it or not doesn’t matter as long as you do. If everyone wore the same thing, fashion would be a very boring place! Instead, own it, love it and be the best you, you can be!